The Sandwich Generation

“For David says of him:  ‘I saw the Lord ever before me, with him at my right hand I shall not be disturbed.  Therefore my heart has been glad and my tongue has exulted; my flesh, too, will dwell in hope, because you will not abandon my soul to the netherworld, nor will you suffer your holy ones to see corruption.  You have made known to me the paths of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence.'”   Acts 2:25-28

Mayonnaise was his kryptonite.

I found out the hard way when my husband and I were still in the courtship period.  We were on our way to my sister’s home when we stopped by a fast food place to grab a quick bite for lunch.  After I ordered a chicken sandwich and brought it in the car, he asked me to “scrape off” the mayonnaise from the chicken patty.

It was messy, gooey and not to mention smelly in the car.

So I did as he requested.  After scraping off the mayonnaise from the patty, he looked at the sandwich and asked me to scrape the mayonnaise from the buns and the tomatoes as well.  Ugh.

Life can be messy and stinky sometimes.

And you may feel you’re stuck right in the middle of it.  Just like a sandwich.

If you’re taking care of both your children and your aging parents, then you’re part of the  “Sandwich Generation.”

And in our generation, just like in life, there are certain things we have control over … and there are some that are beyond our control.

And one of them is death and dying.

Less than a month ago, my husband and I were watching a comedian on Netflix.  And he had a thought.  He observed when you look at a tomb stone, our entire life seemed to have been reduced to a “dash.”  Meaning, you see the person’s ‘date of birth’ (dash) ‘date of death.’  He wanted something different.  He wanted his to be ‘date of birth’ (dot, dot, dot) ‘date of death.’   That’s to signify that a lot of stuff happened in between.

But I think the (dot, dot, dot) should be at the end.  Meaning, it should read as ‘date of birth ‘ (dash) ‘date of death’ (then dot dot dot).  Because we believe Jesus conquered the grave and there’s life after death.  We believe death is not the end … but a graduation to the next phase in life.

I know… it’s easier to say than to actually acknowledge especially when it involves the loss of a loved one.

I remember when I had a difficult time  in my life about 10 years ago –  the only thing that helped me then was spending time in the adoration chapel.    I spent about 1-3 hours there.  Praying…crying…reflecting…waiting.  It was the only place where I found some peace.  And whatever dark feelings and burdens I have seem to evaporate when I was there.

It was a special a time to be filled with hope in God’s words.

It was a time to find peace in the middle of the storm, knowing He still sits on the throne and remains in control.

It was a time to recalibrate and realize what’s important in life.

It was a time to be grateful for what He has given me. 

Right now, my life is busy with work and family.  And I haven’t spent time in the adoration chapel like I used to many, many years ago.

But prayers don’t have to be that long. It just has to be focused on God.  A special time to be alone and be refreshed.

And in that quiet moment, may you find the peace and strength to face the challenges that may lie ahead.


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