These Hands

“May the favor of the Lord our God be ours.  Prosper the work of our hands! Prosper the work of our hands!” Psalm 90:17

Reflection was based on this Sunday’s readings.

Have you been to one of those weekend retreats before getting married? 

My husband and I attended one before we got married.  And my favorite part was the “Blessing of the Hands.” 

It was a marriage poem we read to each other while we held each other’s hand.  And it went like this…

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch. 

Relationships require work.  Relationships require time.  Relationships sometimes even require intentionally building memories. 

Marriage is not easy.  It has its ups and downs.  My husband always tells me he would have socks in his ears without me. 

As for me, I still remember how painfully lonely I was without him.

And now my home is filled with running footsteps, giggles and happy chaos. 

And I appreciate him and all the sacrifices he does. 

When I hear the phrase “prosper the work of your hands”,  I always used to equate it with money and success at work.

But this weekend, may God bless all of our relationships with our loved ones. 


29 thoughts on “These Hands

  1. Relationships require work. Relationships require time. Relationships sometimes even require intentionally building memories.
    I totally agree with you on this. maintaining a relationship is work! we need constant effort to fall back in love with our partners when the going gets tough and we fall out of love momentarily (yes, i really believe this will happen).


  2. My heart! love the poem and yes marriage isn’t easy well not yet marred here but I’ve been with my partner for years and we started from the bottom. Been through a lot and will be through more hopefully together haha!


  3. My 30-something self who does not have plans of getting married found your post both beautiful & inspiring. Getting married is one of my biggest fears in life – and thing is, if I find this person whose hands I will hold, I hope it won’t be the hands that will let go.


  4. I have never heard of the Blessing of the Hands before when I got married. But upon reading the poem, it is very meaningful. We work to make our marriage succeed, and it is not easy, as you say, but we continually strive to make it work the best possible way.


    1. Thank you, Fred! I didn’t hear about it either until the retreat. I couldn’t find who wrote the poem, but I also love the way it was written. God bless you and your family!


  5. This is such a lovely explanation of what a marriage is supposed to be and how it usually is. You’re absolutely right, it takes a lot of work, but it’s also important that you appreciate the person next to you, he is your partner for life after all.


    1. Thank you, Bhushavali! I remember one of our relatives mention when her husband passed away that she wished she held her husband’s hands more often. That comment made an impression on me. So I reach out for my husband’s hands every now and then, too. =)


  6. Wedding ring is the biggest handcuffed a man/woman can have. I may not have a good married life but as long as I have my child with me… i will be ok


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